Recently I had a conversation with a colleague who shared that in his whole life he refused to give up on things, needing to always excel at school, having to successfully troubleshoot something for his job or when he was trying to determine if he should stay in a relationship with a friend who often was rude and difficult to please. We discussed whether his persistence was a blessing or a curse for him. Or sometimes both.
According to Google, persistence is defined as “firm or obstinate continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.” According to the Britannica Dictionary persistence is defined as “the quality that allows someone to continue doing something or trying to do something even though it is difficult or opposed by other people.”
The website Psychology Fanatic in a 2024 post entitled “The Psychology of Persistence: Why We Keep Going” provides us with some interesting perspectives:
“In an era where instant gratification is often prioritized over long-term achievements, persistence emerges as a vital force that propels individuals forward on their journeys. It is this unwavering determination that allows us to navigate through life’s challenges and maintain focus on our aspirations.
In the realm of psychology, researchers and practitioners have consistently recognized the profound impact of persistence on human behavior and achievement. Studies reveal that individuals who embody persistence not only achieve their goals but also cultivate resilience and emotional well-being along the way. By embracing this tenacious mindset, we learn to view setbacks not as insurmountable barriers but rather as opportunities for growth and learning. As we explore the multifaceted nature of persistence further, it becomes evident how crucial it is in shaping our paths toward success—transforming trials into triumphs while instilling within us an unyielding spirit to keep pushing forward against all odds.”
Persistence is often associated with resilience, determination, and the willingness to persevere in the face of adversity. This trait is important in achieving long-term goals and success in various domains of life.
Persistence and Positive Outcomes
At its core, psychological research intricately links persistence to resilience, determination, and unwavering resolve. Individuals who exhibit a high level of persistence typically have a potent inner drive to pursue their goals and aspirations, regardless of the challenges they may encounter along the way. Accordingly, this unwavering commitment enables them to overcome setbacks, learn from failure, and ultimately emerge stronger and more determined.
Psychological studies have consistently demonstrated the correlation between persistence and various positive outcomes. From academic attainment to professional success, individuals who exhibit a tenacious approach to their endeavors are more likely to achieve their objectives and realize their ambitions. Moreover, research suggests that persistence is associated with enhanced emotional well-being and a more resilient mindset when faced with adversity.”
The article goes on to address what can happen when there are setbacks.
“Persistence and Setbacks
Persistence in the face of setbacks is a key element for success. Whether it is striving for personal goals, professional achievements, or even when facing challenges within interpersonal relationships, the ability to persevere despite obstacles is often the defining factor between success and failure. This mindset fosters resilience, determination, and the strength to push through difficulties, leading to growth and accomplishment.
In the pursuit of any endeavor, setbacks are inevitable. However, the way in which one responds to these setbacks is what truly matters. Embracing persistence means not allowing temporary failures to derail progress but using them as opportunities for learning and adaptation. It is about maintaining a positive attitude, and a steadfast belief in one’s capabilities, even when circumstances may seem discouraging.
Furthermore, persistence is intertwined with the concept of grit, a quality that encompasses passion and perseverance towards long-term goals. Research has shown that individuals with elevated levels of grit are more likely to succeed in their pursuits, surpassing those with natural talent or intelligence but lacking in perseverance. This highlights the immense importance of persistence as a driving force behind achievement.
It is an essential quality that propels individuals forward, allowing them to navigate obstacles and setbacks with unwavering determination. By instilling a resilient and persistent mindset, one can effectively steer their journey towards success, no matter the challenges encountered along the way.”
The authors of the article point out that persistence is not always beneficial, it can be maladaptive. “Roy F. Baumeister, Todd F. Heatherton, and Dianne M. Tice wrote that: ‘Although quitting too early is one route to failure, persisting past the optimal point is a less celebrated but often equally pernicious pathway to costly failure.’ Basically, healthy persistence requires persisting in the right behaviors towards achievable goals.
We need some built in monitors to signal when the optimal use of our effort is being wasted. Of course, there is no perfect warning system. Often, we are so invested in our current cause that we can’t see the futility of continuing. Outside opinions from skilled and knowledgeable people can serve as an effective guide.”
For the highly persistent person, giving up on something can be painful. A person can feel defeated as if they are somehow a failure.
I wonder how people who are so determined to remain in a situation or relationship that seems doomed to fail deal with their feelings. A persistent person might even become depressed when they finally give up. It can help to process their decision with a therapist who might provide some perspectives.
So being persistent can be both a gift and at times a curse. If you are highly persistent or in a relationship with someone who is highly persistent, learning about these characteristics can be challenging. And often there is no right decision – do I keep persisting or do I decide to give up?
Invitation for Reflection
- Do you identify as someone who is highly persistent? How does your persistence manifest itself?
- How does being persistent impact your relationships?
- Have you had to give up being persistent? How hard was that to do?
- Do you know someone who is persistent? What are some of the behaviors they exhibit that lead you to this conclusion?
- Are there ways you could support them as they work to give up that persistence?
Diane Wagenhals
Director Emeritus, Lakeside Global Institute