Category: Parenting

  • The Best Day EVER – Really? 

    The Best Day EVER – Really? 

    How often have you heard a parent say to a child, “This was the best day ever!” or “You drew that picture perfectly!” or “You are the most beautiful person in our family!” Or how often do coaches tell their teams they are playing an absolutely perfect game or they will never be defeated because…

  • Using Multi-Directed Partiality in Your Family

    Using Multi-Directed Partiality in Your Family

    There are certain concepts I have learned along the way that dramatically changed my understanding of relationships and my role in them. The concept of multi-directed partiality is one of them. I had the privilege of having Dr. Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, founder of the Contextual Therapy movement, as one of my professors when I was at…

  • Appreciating Temperament Part 3: Goodness of Fit

    Appreciating Temperament Part 3: Goodness of Fit

    In my last two blogs I first invited readers to explore the idea of temperament, its definition and the 10 continuums on which it is measured in children. Next we learned about the three main constellations of temperament:  the easy child, the slow-to-warm child and the difficult child.  Learning about temperament and especially considering the…

  • The Three Broad Constellations of Temperament and Their Impact 

    The Three Broad Constellations of Temperament and Their Impact 

    In my last blog I invited you to explore the idea of temperament, its definition, the history of its study and the 10 continuums on which it is measured in children. It can be a very helpful concept to appreciate and can explain so much about why each child behaves as they do. While it…

  • Why Appreciating Your Child’s Temperament Is Important

    Why Appreciating Your Child’s Temperament Is Important

    Most parents recognize that some children are easier to parent than others. What some parents don’t realize is that one of the underlying reasons for these differences is the inborn temperament of each child. “He is just the sweetest, easiest baby! I don’t know why other parents struggle to get their kids to sleep.” “She’s…

  • How Children Grieve, Part Two

    How Children Grieve, Part Two

    In my last blog, I shared some information on how children grieve and what they need from adults. In this blog I am sharing some specific information about what can happen for children who are very young, school-aged, and teens. Much of the information comes from the book Growing Up with Divorce: Helping Your Child…

  • How Children Grieve

    How Children Grieve

    In my previous two blogs I invited readers to learn more about the subject of grief and loss. Having recently completed writing curriculum for a 3-hour workshop on the subject, I became aware that it’s so important to inform readers how the power grief can affect their lives and some of the ways to respond…

  • Exonerating Parents Instead of Forgiving

    In my last blog I talked about how Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are not always happy holidays for people to celebrate because their relationships with one or both of their parents were fraught with pain and disappointment. It is hard to be affirming of a parent when you carry so much hurt, loss, anger or emptiness. Many…

  • “Mommy, Are You Sad?”

    We are all living in a world that is confusing, stressful, frightening and sometimes overwhelming. Many are experiencing allostatic load, which from the site Science Direct is defined is, “the cost of chronic exposure to elevated or fluctuating endocrine or neural responses resulting from chronic repeated challenges that the individual experiences as stressful.” As stress…