Category: Trauma Resources
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Some Destructive Transgenerational Legacies Are Painful to Discover
In light of the Epstein files that led us into an insidious, deviant world of sexual childhood abuse, I thought my readers would find the information I am sharing in this blog to be enlightening even as it may be horrifying. Before you read this, if you were a victim of childhood sexual abuse, you…
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Do You Take Time to Assess Before You Act?
Are you familiar with the song from the 1960’s musical Oliver! entitled “I am reviewing the Situation? The lyrics go like this: “I’m reviewing the situationCan a fellow be a villain all his life?All the trials and tribulations!Better settle down and get myself a wife.” In other words, because he reviewed the situation, meaning he assessed…
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New Information on the Stages of Grief
I remember learning about the five stages of grief that Dr. Kübler Ross published in her 1969 best-selling book, On Death and Dying in which she shared her research based on interviewing terminally ill patients. I was under the impression this was the gold standard for understanding what to expect as anyone faced their own…
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There is (Almost) Always a Legitimate Reason for Even the Worst Behavior
This might be a difficult statement to take in, let alone agree with. Like it or not, I think most of us, when we see something happening, especially something we disapprove of, can think that the offending person has no good reason for their behavior. Sometimes we are the one that is behaving in ways…
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Not Everyone Celebrates Mother’s Day or Father’s Day
We don’t usually think of holidays as painful, however the thoughts of celebrating mothers on Mother’s Day or fathers on Father’s Day can invoke memories of sadness, fear, disconnection and sometimes jealousy for others who seem to have or had mothers or fathers who are loving and supporting. Given the high divorce rate, there are…
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Do You Know What to Say When Someone Is Grieving?
An unpleasant discovery I and my friends who also are getting older have experienced is the loss of many friends and family members. Recently, I have lost several lifelong friends including a dear neighbor of over 40 years and a friend from high school. A few months ago, my niece who was only four years…
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So Often, We Don’t Know the Back Story
TW: mentions of suicide When you know a lot about someone in your life or someone in the world today, how often do you assume you know how they arrived at where they are now? One of the interesting things about all of us is that we are not just who we are in the…
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Meeting the Needs of People Impacted by Trauma, Part Two
In my previous blog I invited you to appreciate that there are many people in our lives with trauma histories and that many of you may have your own trauma history. Each person has their own unique needs that are often very challenging to meet. The needs of people impacted by trauma manifest in ways…
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Meeting the Needs of Trauma-Impacted Children, Teens, and Adults, Part One
Many of us are in close relationships with children, teens and adults who have experienced significant trauma. Many of you may have your own trauma histories. We may want to meet the pain of unmet needs, but it turns out that can be tricky. Trauma-impacted children and adults are different in many ways from those…